Welcome home you're finally here....

In general, everything had gone better than I could have imagined it. In general, everything had gone better than anything else in my life had gone, you know, up until that point.

I'd like to think that everything was going so well due to all the internal work, healing, reading, praying, meditating, journaling, begging, pleading, groveling, crying, demanding, drinking, sobering up, cleansing, fasting, purging, sucking it up, screwing it up, sucking it in, letting it all hang out, letting it all go, coming full circle, picking myself up and starting over again ....  

and bargaining with God, I had been doing for so many years.

                             After 15 years of dating... THIS.

                             After 15 years of dating... THIS.

*side note: bargaining with God doesn't work, not the way you'd expect, so unless you are really a glutton for punishment, I suggest not bargaining with God until you've become an expert.  *footnote to the side note: good luck becoming an expert, bargaining with God. 

I'd like to say I was one of those people who had fun dating as an adult. But that is a blatant lie.  I was bad at dating, I didn't like to date, and I wasn't very good at it.

Correct, two of those things are the same thing... moving on.

So how could 'the thing' be going so swimmingly when for so long all I had wanted and desired was something like this in my life?

Then, guess what enters my mind immediately?

Oh God, this is going to hurt when its over.

Followed by, WOW, two seconds of joy, huh? You allowed yourself a whole two seconds of joy and happiness around this splendid thing you said you've always wanted, and you finally have it and now you're already preparing yourself for the pain and suffering of its ending?

How often is this where we go immediately after experiencing something really wonderful and profound in our lives? How often do we squash our own pleasure before we've even squeezed out a regular size portion for ourselves?

What signals do we send our bodies, our minds, and our subconscious when we stop ourselves from the pleasure because we're more afraid of how bad its going to feel when its gone? So we'd rather not feel the good at all? This isn't even a fully conscious decision, mind you, I know I said for years all I ever wanted was to fall in love and be in a committed relationship with a loving man.  

But lets be honest, after so many years of feeling disappointment and regret.

It is natural to give up.

Give up on yourself, give up on love, give up on relationships, give up on happiness, fulfillment, give up on that thing you've been trying to make happen in your life, give up on figuring out what it is you are here to do. Insert that thing you've been wanting for so long that seems impossible to ever have, achieve, receive, BE.  Its natural to give up.

Give up on your dreams.

Most people will not ever bridge the gap between the life you aspire to have and the life you currently have. Most people get stuck in the gap because there is a huge gravitational pull to the familiar.

Disappointment, regret, and giving up is what keeps us living the life we’ve been living, over and over again. Giving up, is not a one time choice, its a choice we continue to make over and over again.

Even if we say that's not what we've done.

Emotionally we've learned to protect ourselves from the greater pain of the thing being lost or never coming to pass than we have learned to open ourselves to the possibility of the dream fulfilled and allow it to happen in our lives naturally.

I've been giving a lot of thought to disappointment, challenge, struggle, and regret and wondering what IS their persistence and necessity in our lives?

I don't want to sound cliché but I'm not so sure that these things are only understood looking backward on our lives, and now looking back on so many disappointments and regrets, I have said, Thank you, God for unanswered prayers and "because some of God's greatest gifts are unanswered prayers."  I understand that when I'm in the midst of something 'not going my way' I could possibly be in the midst of my dreams being fulfilled.  And I think from that place, Who would I be? Right here in this moment, if I already knew how this turns out, if I already knew that my dreams have been received? Could I allow myself more joy, more enjoyment? Could I laugh more, not take myself so seriously, and gasp, not spend so much time making myself wrong because I already know that some of the best things that EVER happened to me are the things that NEVER happened to me.

The experience of happiness isn't in getting what you want, it is loving what you've got, who you are, and where you are, right here, right now.  

Welcome home you're finally here!

........next up coming posts, more on finally arriving HOME in a fun, happy, healthy, expansive, committed romance... "Real LOVE, Wealth and Happiness In Life Begins at HOME".... and more to come on life, love, and a good reason to get out of bed in the morning... "Don't Listen to Me, I don't know what the fuck I'm saying"

Part of coming alive in your life and beginning to live the life of your dreams is to stop thinking based on your current circumstances and start acting from your resources within. Connecting to the source within is exactly what you need to do in order to change your external circumstances.

Ready for advanced work, training, programing, breakthrough and mentorship for your specific work/life purpose, apply for the Life Artistry & Prosperity Mentorship Program HERE.

Tears, my tears have rained with sorrow 
Cursed each day with every breath 
Now here I stand with new tomorrows 
I've been lost but found at last 

Piece by piece I started over
Step by step I made my way
All you said was just keep going
Don't give up, it's not too late

Welcome home, you're finally here!

Finally here..... by Justin Froese

Emotions, in my experience, aren’t covered by single words. I don’t believe in “sadness,” “joy,” or “regret.” Maybe the best proof that the language is patriarchal is that it oversimplifies feeling. I’d like to have at my disposal complicated hybrid emotions, Germanic train-car constructions like, say, “the happiness that attends disaster.” Or: “the disappointment of sleeping with one’s fantasy.” I’d like to show how “intimations of mortality brought on by aging family members” connects with “the hatred of mirrors that begins in middle age.” I’d like to have a word for “the sadness inspired by failing restaurants” as well as for “the excitement of getting a room with a minibar.” I’ve never had the right words to describe my life, and now that I’ve entered my story, I need them more than ever.
— Jeffrey Eugenides, Middlesex

and thank you Wikipedia for this gut wrenching explanation of Disappointment and REGRET.... smile.

black holes and why women fall madly in love with douchebags

Disappointment is the feeling of dissatisfaction that follows the failure of expectations or hopes to manifest. Similar to regret, it differs in that a person feeling regret focuses primarily on the personal choices that contributed to a poor outcome, while a person feeling disappointment focuses on the outcome itself. It is a source of psychological stress. The study of disappointment—its causes, impact, and the degree to which individual decisions are motivated by a desire to avoid it—is a focus in the field of decision analysis, as disappointment is one of two primary emotions involved in decision-making.

Regret is a negative conscious and emotional reaction to personal past acts and behaviors. Regret is often expressed by the term "sorry." Regret is often a feeling of  sadness,  shame,  embarrassment,  depression, annoyance, or guilt, after one acts in a manner and later wishes not to have done so. Regret is distinct from guilt, which is a deeply emotional form of regret — one which may be difficult to comprehend in an objective or conceptual way. In this regard, the concept of regret is subordinate to guilt in terms of its emotional intensity. By comparison, shame typically refers to the social (rather than personal) aspect of guilt or (in minor context) regret as imposed by the society or culture (enforcement of ethics,  morality), which has substantial bearing in matters of (personal and social) honor.

Regret can describe not only the dislike for an action that has been committed, but also, importantly, regret of inaction. Many people find themselves wishing that they had done something in a past situation and regretting their inaction and thinking about what might have been.

Explore Deeply- a unique experience in becoming the Master of your Destiny

I’m talking about deeply exploring your human experience JUST for the sake of getting to know who you truly are and finding what you're here to do in this lifetime.

Finding your happy and deeply exploring as many experiences as you possibly can is what is going to lead you to your purpose, your fulfillment, your peace, your true love, your prosperity.  Exploring your life experience and finding your happy is the fastest easiest way to uncover your truth and what you’re here to do this lifetime and how you’re gonna make money doing it!   You must get to know the voice of your Inner Authority in order to find your north star, in order to find the treasure chest of wealth that your soul buried when you were born into this world.  

Your life is the map that leads you to the treasure chest of wealth, love, and prosperity.  Seriously this is how it works, and you can have more fun in your life when you learn to deeply explore in this way. It makes the in-between times more bearable, and the downtimes worth going through. What I'm talking about is NOT making your dreams come true but making welcome that which is your unique destiny.

I invite you to JOIN ME in an extraordinary program as we unlock the power of the divine within and become the Masters of our Destiny.

You are a person who has a nagging sensation you were meant for something more.  Perhaps you feel like you’re going to burst into flames if you don’t figure it out right this instant.

You’ve done everything right.

You’ve done all the right things.

You’ve tried all the programs.

You’ve read all the books.

And still something is really off and you’re trying to figure it out.  

You may have lost yourself in the process, you may have lost yourself or gotten so wrapped up in a particular goal that you forgot you were supposed to be having fun too, while living.

You are a visionary and mediocrity scares the shit out of you.

Join me in this 6 week program beginning Sept 17, 2014.   This is a full immersion into the core of who you really are, and not in the sense of knowing this is my purpose, but to be so deeply connected at source that no matter what the external circumstances or your ability to change your mind a thousand times you are able to go anywhere, do anything, and give your gifts in a prosperous and successful way.

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Sometimes it's the journey that teaches you a lot about your destination.

Sometimes it's the journey that teaches you a lot about your destination. - Drake

My fellow explorer driving, on my birthday we traveled to Yellowstone National Park and stayed just outside the north park entrance near Gardiner. This was our only day of rain on the entire trip, the landscape was erie, grey, empty, and silent, but also beautiful, vast, stunning, and awe inspiring. This was also our only real close encounter with wildlife, a lone deer ran out in front of the car... you know how everything goes into slow motion in these experiences.... as we both see the deer, the possibility of an impact registers, Dylan swerves into the other lane to avoid the galloping animal, the thought crosses the mind- [oh you're not supposed to swerve];  simultaneously scanning the small two lane roadway and remembering that you've been the only car on either side of the highway for miles and miles, I close my eyes and brace for the sound, that horrible sound of flesh impacting metal at 50 miles per hour, I blink as the deer exits to the opposite side of the road, jumping a fence, and Dylan turns the wheel two fisted as he brings the vehicle back into its proper lane.

The car is still rolling and Dylan looks at me, his face ghost white, looks at me expecting me to say something... I say nothing... slow motion still in effect... the sky fills with sparrows, sparrows pour over the sunroof and flock and stream just over our heads and then burst into a myriad of wings in front of us through the windshield.  

I'm startled and awestruck, I open my mouth "The sparrows, the sparrows... look, they're speaking to us." 

I'm not even sure why these words came out of my mouth. But I felt so strongly that the birds were sending us a message.  Dylan pulls off to the side of the road, still shocked from the possible impact with the deer, his face still a pale shade of green, we get out of the car and walk off the shock in the light drizzle that is falling in the brown but beautiful valley.

Eventually we high five each other, shake off the close call, and get back in the car. A few miles down the road we pull into a wild and lonely campground, fixed two strong and spicy bloody vodka drinks, and then set up camp for the night.

My friend just released a new single on his upcoming album "Fireflies". I liked the words and thought it was fitting, if you like it you can get this track now, plus the complete album the moment it's released: 27 August 2014.  I support DREAMERS, how 'bout you? Smile.

near the Artist Paint Pots, landscape Yellowstone National Park August 9th, 2014

Beyond the door to which you've spoken 
Your heartbeat knocks at it to open 
Each minute, every day 
Already on your way there

If you build a dream, let it come true 
Some of us glow because we're made to 
Others of us glow 'cause we have to see 
Each minute, every day 
Already on our way, 
One foot after the next step gets closer 

If you build a dream, let it come true 
If you build a dream, let it come true 
If you build a dream, let it build you, yeah 

Doesn't mean it's gonna be easy 
Doesn't mean it's got to be hard 
Every step is one step further 
Steppin to the beat of your drum 

If you build a dream, it will build you

Watch my amateur video on Going to the Sun Road Glacier National Park, the day before my birthday. Its windy but beautiful. Smile.

Considering where I was not that long ago, read blog post  "The Dos and Don'ts of the Woman on a Spiritual Path Seeking True Love, Don't Get Drunk with Dreamers ", I would never in a million years have imagined the adventure I have just been on, and I could never have imagined that I would have a fellow explorer to join me on this journey.

#10 of the Dos and Don'ts of Dating for Women on the Spiritual Path Seeking True love: Don't give up on love. When I wrote those words, I didn't know just how close to love I was.

I didn't know that I would fly across the country, to HOME, though, home was a place I hadn't been to in years, and before that had been a place I had avoided returning to, and before that, my small town had always been a place I'd intended to get as far away from as possible. And I guess I'd managed to do that considering I was living in Seattle, Washington about 2,780 miles away from home.

I didn't know that I would return home after years of seeking myself and my heart and meet a boy I remembered from childhood, who had grown into a man. He spoke to me in such a way that I had to pause, he looked at me and saw me, as I see myself. I had to pause long enough to consider; was coming home after all this time to heal and be healed, as a full and whole, inspired, and open and loving version of myself, just as perfect as it was trite? All at once, a cliché and immediately a self-evident truth.

Well then, so be it.

More on the journey and the adventure as it unfolded to come.... for now I share with you a few pictures from the beginning of our cross country road trip (and a few inspiring quotes) to ponder and enjoy.... God writes the best plot twists ever,  join me on the journey to find love, life purpose, and a reason to get out of bed in the morning.... smile. 

Golden Gardens Beach, Seattle Washington, before packing up my things and heading back across the country to Virginia.

Today may be a turning point.  It happens that way- not with flashing lights and fanfare, but quietly. In the past we searched for reasons, for something we could pinpoint as the catalyst for change. We could never decide what it was, though we said many things. Something in us, something about our awareness, gives us reason to suddenly be conscious of new circumstances and new ideas. We are able to think outside the limits of our usual methods. Life, for no apparent reason, begins to fit together as though we found a piece of the puzzle that completes the picture. As turning points go, some are not particularly great to see, but are often hidden in such small, ordinary events as to go undetected. Our part, is to be aware of the change and make the most of it while its at its strongest. - Joyce Squichie Hifler

Regardless of whether our life purpose is to nurture children, to discover quantum theory or to help other awaken through some difficulty we voluntarily take upon ourselves, it is good to keep the words of Mother Teresa in mind: "We cannot do great things in this world, we can only do little things with great love." - [Joan Borysenko]

A good traveler has no fixed plans and is not intent on arrival. Be content with what you have, rejoice in the way things are. When you realize there is nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you. - Lao Tzu

The good life is a process, not a state of being. It is a direction not a destination. -Carl Rogers

Love recognizes no barriers. It jumps hurdles, leaps fences, penetrates walls to arrive at its destination full of hope. - Maya Angelou

Lake Diablo Campground, the first night campsite #88.

One's destination is never a place but rather a new way of looking at things.- Henry Miller

No one wants to die. Even people who want to go to heaven don't want to die to get there. And yet death is the destination we all share. No one has ever escaped it. And that is as it should be, because Death is very likely the single best invention of Life. It is Life's change agent. It clears out the old to make way for the new. -Steve Jobs

Keep close to Nature's heart... and break clear away, once in awhile, and climb a mountain or spend a week in the woods. Wash your spirit clean.

Walk away quietly in any direction and taste the freedom of the mountaineer. Camp out among the grasses and gentians of glacial meadows, in craggy garden nooks full of nature's darlings. Climb the mountains and get their good tidings, Nature's peace will flow into you as sunshine flows into trees. The winds will blow their own freshness into you and the storms their energy, while cares will drop off like autumn leaves. As age comes on, one source of enjoyment after another is closed, but nature's sources never fail.

When we try to pick out anything by itself, we find it hitched to everything else in the Universe. - John Muir

I didn't always know I could be happy...

I recall crying in such a way that the sobbing would be the only way I could feel my body …. in some twisted way, at least I could feel sorrow, at least….

At least I could feel the sadness….

For years I thought that the depression was me.  Honestly, I thought depression was a descriptor of me, like she has brown hair, hazel eyes, and depression.  It was just a part of who I was. For that matter, that was what the doctors told me, too. I’m sick, I have an illness of the mind. Here take these drugs, they’ll change your chemical make up, you’ll feel better. You know what’s scarier, is when you do change your chemical make up via an intense pill and you’re still freaking depressed. 

I remember the first time I finally succumbed to taking an antidepressant and the chemical fog lifted almost immediately from my brain and somewhere around the three day mark I remember laughing. I heard myself laugh.  My God, what a strange sound, but what was harder to grasp was how long had it been since I’d laughed? Jesus. I didn’t even recognize the sound of my own laughter.

Fast forward many years later, many many sessions in talk therapy, and many many experiments in self-help and self development. I arrived at a point where I had become so God damn contented by following all the rules and doing all the right things, that I didn’t know who I was, what I liked, or even if anything made me happy.  

And then it got even worse.

My life situation started to feel so unbearable that it became impossible for me to image a way out.

This is defined as hopelessness and desperation.

So not only did I have a depressed nature, I was hopeless and desperate too. Wow, what a sexy combination for a less than notable life.

So what then you ask? Would you dare give up everything you've ever known to find yourself and the one thing that has eluded you, your entire life?


I whispered the fragile secrets cradled deep within my heart, I spoke them in confidence to the ones I trusted, the ones who claimed to love me and support me, only to have my own secrets used against me.  The throat clutching fearful advice, the screaming, the threats, how could I not listen to their fears?

But how could I go on living a half life? I was dead inside and even more frightening was that I wished I was dead.

I remember, stone faced and emotionless, repeating to my mother, as we stood in the driveway arguing, “This is not a life. This is not a way to live. I'm not alive. This is no way to live. This is not a life I am living.”

"What will you do”, she asked?  “I don’t know.” I replied. "But I can't go on like this. I’m going to leave.”

Must I risk everything? Could I relinquish all safety and security for the unknown?

Must I leave everything I've ever identified myself with, to, and from in order to find myself?

There was security in the mundane, taking risks and leaps of faith were fine for others, but I had always been smart with a plan. The thing was, none of my plans had worked out very well.  And yet, I was determined to feel something other than low grade disappointment of all that I had accomplished.  I decided that if I must risk everything for the one thing that had become more precious than life, the desire to live, then that was what I would do.

I wanted to know love. I wanted to have a reason to get out of bed in the morning. I longed for freedom.

And as the story goes, from there I jumped from the cliff, took the leap of faith, risked everything, lost everything, fell through every safety net, dove into the deepest darkness of the abyss, and then entered into the complete unknown.

Only then, after I had lost everything, including every shred of my precious self identity, only then did the light find me.  

Only then did I enter into the land of miracles.

"Once you get over the fear, then its a cinch." she said. And then she leaped into a mountainous and unexplored region of her heart.

Today I had a conversation with my true self. She asked me why I had abandoned her, why I had ignored all her constant advice. And then she reminded me of all the things I had forgotten. And never once did she say ‘I told you so’.

“On Tuesday, She woke up and realized she had forgotten the definition of the word ‘impossible.’ She decided it must not have been that important.” -  Monique Duval


Lofoten Islands, Norway. My first real big leap of faith, travel to the Arctic Circle 2010.

Lofoten Islands, Norway. My first real big leap of faith, travel to the Arctic Circle 2010.

Lofoten Islands, Norway. I can't row a boat to save my life, but I did come alive on this trip. Afterward my personal revolution began.

Lofoten Islands, Norway. I can't row a boat to save my life, but I did come alive on this trip. Afterward my personal revolution began.

I didn't always know that I could be happy.

I didn't always know that I could heal my depression, and it wasn't through doctors, talk therapy, or medication...

I healed my depression and anxiety, by risking everything that was safe and known, following my heart, losing everything, finding myself, and being broken open to love, and connecting to the infinite source of creation within, my heart.

If following your heart and making your dreams come true was easy almost everyone would have done it along time ago.

I'm going to invite you to take my hand as I lead you to a direct path to your DREAMS. You see, we are hardwired for fear, doubt, and negativity, AND we also possess the most powerful creation tool that exists in the Universe.  Are you ready to open to greater potential and allow something great to happen to you? Register for my upcoming free course:  http://eepurl.com/XezXT What I am going to teach you is not how to MAKE your dreams come true, but rather how you become the person that allows and makes welcome that which is your destiny.

This is when simplicity and being yourself becomes the greatest luxury of your life experience.

Do you want to accomplish what you so deeply desire in your heart? Do you want to feel the freedom to get over your lifelong limitations? Do you want to feel successful and like the world is wide open to you? Join me for a special discussion, Register here: http://eepurl.com/XezXT

What if your greatest wealth was freedom from your personal baggage?

Perhaps you are frustrated because you've tried everything including programs, self help books, meditation, journaling…. and maybe even investing in personal coaching with expensive mentors living their dream lives and found yourself just as stuck and disenchanted as before.

If you are ready to attain your own vision of happiness, personal freedom, financial freedom, and stop looking outside of yourself to receive the answers, you do not want to miss this conversation. Register here: http://eepurl.com/XezXT

Course starts June 25th, Free registration

In Pursuit of the Divine: And in the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make


In just 3 days, I will be releasing my second internationally published anthology, In Pursuit of the Divine, 30 written stories to empower a woman's soul.  

The purpose of the book is to inspire and empower women all over the globe with transformational true life stories. Every Woman has experienced some form of disempowerment in her life leaving behind traces of her true essence.  She may decide to hide her true self from the world. Our purpose is to expand your awareness, acknowledge you and provide a sanctuary to reclaim your own Feminine Power. Women now more than ever are being called upon to come together as a collective entity. With our unique offerings, we have a desire to support you and guide you in activating your own inner wisdom so you can align yourself with the greatest expression of who you are and know your purpose in the world. 

Each co-author invites you to witness their own Transformational Journey, one that empowered them to be who they are today as the Feminine Rising.  Each chapter reveals the truth, what they discovered on their path to cultivate healing within themselves. Each story reveals the beauty already inherent in each one of us, a unique journey where a time of darkness initiated deep feminine wisdom of spectacular threads woven together in a tapestry of courage, bravery, trust and triumph In Pursuit of the Divine.


I joined forces with 29 other healers, coaches, visionaries and thought leaders from around North America and the U.K.  

I was invited to participate in this incredible, inspiring and impactful collaboration by my friend and the book's compiler, Krista Gustavson who asked that each of the book's 30 co-authors share our stories of empowerment and transformation more truthfully, vulnerably and courageously than ever before.  The result is a collection of stories that is incredibly real, totally inspirational and packed with tools to empower women around the globe.  This is our time. This is YOUR time.  To be utterly and gloriously YOU and to shine your light fully for your sake, the sake of your loved ones and the sake of our world.  This book will empower you to do so.  Stay tuned for the Amazon link which will become available on Friday so that you can purchase the book for yourself and all the other women who are important to you!

Each co-author will touch your heart and speak to your soul, giving you greater awareness, clarity and inspiration. You will learn that losing yourself in the midst of pain, grief and loss can be a portal to strengthen and empower ourselves. I invite you to step into your own story so that your true purpose can be revealed. When we are completely aligned with our Purpose, we are the greatest contribution to the world.

Buy the book this Friday and I will be offering a special free gift to everyone who sends me their Amazon receipt.

AMAZON link to purchase http://amzn.to/1hBiG5f!



Create a Life Worth Living


by Chloë Rain

I want to be wanted.

I want to be missed.

I want to be made love to.

I want to see love in your eyes when you desire me.

I want your desire to run so deep, that satisfying it will take a lifetime or two

Photograph: Chloë Rain at Doe Bay Resort, Orcas Island

Photograph: Chloë Rain at Doe Bay Resort, Orcas Island

Maya Angelou has inspired me about zillion times over the past two days.  I wasn't exactly a fanatical fan, but her voice and words always carried power and respect that made me pause to listen to her every syllable.  She was a force to be reckoned with and as far as I felt she was and will remain to be a tremendous force of good in the world.

I didn't even know most of her story, though I vaguely recall reading "I know why the caged Bird Sings" about racism, child rape, and incest.  Maya Angelou's platform wasn't based solely on overcoming adversity.  She had, she did, and she thrived, spreading deep wisdom through her presence, her voice, and her words, not through her suffering.

Do you know this lady used to be a fry cook and a stripper and then went on to become good friends with Nelson Mandela, published her first book at age 40, because her mentor said writing an autobiography as literature couldn't be done??? !!!  So she set out to prove him wrong. It took her two years but then she went on to kick ass in essentially every artistic medium known to creative humankind. This fry cook, turned Oprah's mentor, turned poet laureate, turned friend of past Presidents.... made a life that was worth living when all the odds were against her.  

I'm betting that she was listening to the voice of Inner Authority as she navigated the pains of heartbreak and turned them into the precious gems of a truly wealthy woman, not rich, but wealthy.

I think I love best about this woman, is she was TOTALLY REAL. Like her, dislike her, don't care, there's no denying her authenticity and integrity.

What I've been witnessing a good deal of is what happens when you don't connect to the voice of your own Inner Authority and you go searching for the answer out there?

You arrive in a "different" place still feeling much the same way you had before, lost, shocked, unhappy because you thought that you could figure it out by yourself, and that "bright shiny object" was going to be the answer to all that ails you. 

The answer lies with in you, all the resources, all the answers you are seeking are within. Your Inner Authority is the most priceless and precise decision making tool and inner compass that will always lead you to the most direct way of reaching your true north.

But this can be totally scary because our subconscious minds have been wired, in our youth and inherited from the people around us, with fear and emotional responses that keep us stuck, confused, and prevent us from having a different life experience.

Many times we are running on patterns that aren't even our own. We don't have a clue who is running the show. It sounds simple but when you are blind to what's keeping you stuck this is tough work to do by yourself. You must find your inner voice and learn to trust yourself!  

You can hear me talk more about the science of the brain chemistry that creates chemical chaos and brain fog here: chloerain.com/shameless

When I was changing my life, I worked with 4 (sometimes more) healers, coaches, and mentors each and every week. This is how serious I take my healing. I still continuously invest in my mental, physical, and emotional health and have an international support system! This is the basis of my work with individuals who are seriously committed to transforming their lives.

I fiercely take a stand for You.  What the world needs now is YOU.

To wake up and come alive in your life, and find the courage and receive the support you need to birth your special gift into the world!

This is of utmost importance, there could not be a greater investment in your future.

I guarantee that learning to trust your Inner Authority will make you happier than a new pair of shoes and a fancy bag. Trust me, been there done that, got the credit card bill to show for it. 

I dove into my own journal seeking some inspiration of my own making....

a brief passage was the only thing that spoke to me:

"I want to wake up to the truth of Myself."

"What the world needs now, is YOU. And me."

Words are like sunbeams, the more condensed, the deeper they burn.

Bad things will happen and good things too. Your life will be full of surprises. Miracles happen only where there has been suffering. So taste your grief to the fullest. Don’t try and press it down. Don’t hide from it. Don’t escape. It is life too. It is truth. But it will pass and time will put a strange honey in the bitterness. That’s the way life goes.
— Ben Okri

Follow your Heart, find your Courage, go for your Dreams, tell LOVE stories, go Exploring

May you be inspired to create a life worth living on your own terms!

We plan our lives according to a dream that came to us in our childhood, and we find that life alters our plans. And yet, at the end, from a rare height, we also see that our dream was our fate. It’s just that providence had other ideas as to how we would get there. Destiny plans a different route, or turns the dream around, as if it were a riddle, and fulfills the dream in ways we couldn’t have expected.
— Ben Okri

I want to live simple

I want to live simple


I want to sit by the window when it rains and read books I’ll never be tested on.

I want to paint because I want to, not because I’ve got something to prove.

I want to listen to my body, fall asleep when the moon is high and wake up slowly, with no place to  rush off to.

I want not to be governed  by money or clocks or any of the artificial restraints that humanity imposed on itself.

I just want to be, boundless and infinite.

3 Months to a Perfect Yoga Body

New Years Eve, Paris France photograph by Chloé Le Drezen

New Years Eve, Paris France photograph by Chloé Le Drezen



Shame, fear, depression



Death and yoga

Helped me to be a better person

You wanna know how I got a perfect yoga body in JUST 3 months?  

I'm gonna share with you what I've learned about smoking, drinking, cheese, shame, self sabotage, self discovery, and how friendship saved my life. I'm gonna tell you how shame has served me, and how you can face your version of shame in order to change your life permanently so that you may receive the things you so desperately desire.

I feel trapped inside my own body. I feel trapped by a life of my own making and I'm dying inside, but on the outside I so desperately want to hold it together for everyone around me. I don't want anyone to know. I'm hiding my secret behaviors.  

I drank two bottles of wine the day I found out my X was having a child with a woman he had fallen in love with. At the time, I was sleeping with a man who was engaged to be married and not to me. I had been trying to quit smoking for three years.  But the truth was, I enjoyed smoking. And I had so little enjoyment in my life, I felt less lonely when I was smoking, even if I was alone.

On the outside I was holding it all together. I was putting on a smiling face.  I even fooled myself for awhile. I kept going. I kept smoking. I kept drinking.  I hoped my life would change one day, some day, soon, hopefully. I had always been seeking a greater meaning in life, but had been told too many times that I was just too intense. So I hid my spiritual quest too.

I hid my depression as well as I could, but it was such a constant in my life, I wouldn't have known who I was without it. My friends tolerated my drunken outbursts of anger, occasionally a night of going out would end with me in a pile on the floor, sobbing about how much I hated my life.  I was conflicted, going to the gym regularly, but drinking purple stuff to keep my energy high while I toned my arms throwing kettlebells. Meanwhile, being called "gym girl", gave me a false pride as I skipped regular meals and drank my daily calories in blueberry vodka sodas.  I remember, running into my X on the street with his soon to be wife, and I went home and popped an antidepressant pill to subdue the inevitable tidal wave of despair that was coming for me.  I kept some pills in my drawer in case of emergencies. Once sitting in my favorite coffee shop where I ate breakfast and lunch almost daily,  SHE came into the shop, and parked the baby stoller and the baby feet from my table.  As she talked on the phone of their pending wedding plans,  and discussed the details of the house they were building together, I wanted to melt into oblivion. I was sure she hadn't seen me and wouldn't know me, if she did, but I wished with all of my being that my life would change. I sat there frozen listening and praying, God, please get me the fuck out of here, and I don't just mean the coffee shop.  There were a couple of times, I remember going for the drawer with my antidepressants to pop a pill. Then once going home with the thought, "I need  to take one of those pills so this wont affect me" and almost simultaneously, a soft clarity washed over me, "no fucking pill was going to solve the problems I had in my life, in fact it was almost silly to think that a pill was going to change anything about my life at all."

I had been in therapy for over ten years (secretly), and at this point I could say that, you know, I was ok. Completely functioning and in many ways, successful, skinny, with good credit and making good money. But something was terribly wrong, inside. I never slept an entire night through. 

God, or life, did get me the fuck out of there.... but I still needed help.

When does shit get bad enough to take said shit seriously?  I can't say I had some great epiphany.  I knew that I "should" quit smoking, and I'd talked about it for almost 3 years.  I had quit smoking before and I could do it again, if I wanted, or so I thought.  I didn't think I had a real issue, you know, I just didn't feel like quitting, yet. Until someone asked the question, "if I didn't have a plan to quit smoking, how exactly did I intend to quit smoking?" She suggested an acupuncturist who had a lot of success with smoking cessation. I dunno, I'd never gone to an acupuncturist, but I had considered hypnotherapy (secretly), and since I could partially write off my medical expenses I decided to give it a try. 

It took me 8 months to quit. At first, I went 3 times a week! 3 TIMES A WEEK!!! to acupuncture. And guess what? For smoking cessation you get needles stuck in your ears, and holy crap! it doesn't feel good. Not like when you get needles in your back and it makes you giggle like a circus clown (true story for another time.)

God, only knows why I kept going. But what was revealed and uncovered in 8 months was such priceless healing and therapy and love and self care and receiving. What would come out of my acupuncture sessions was more powerful than any therapy or self-help book. I kept going back, looking back on it now, because Dennis was maybe the first person I'd ever been truly honest with, and he treated me each week with such deep care and kindness and intelligence and because of his gentle non judging ways, my life began to transform.  

But guess what? I still didn't want to quit smoking. I got really clear on what my triggers were and why I was addicted to smoking and I still did it. Every week  Dennis would ask how was I doing with the smoking? You know I wasn't smoking in public and I was hiding it as much as possible, but with him, I'd be honest. "You know I'm going to light up a cigarette as soon as I walk out of your office." I'd say to him.

"I'd be lying if I told you I want to quit smoking. I enjoy it. I know its bad for me. But I don't care. I don't want to quit." I was being honest.

And every week Dennis would say, "You're going to quit."

"You keep showing up, and one day you're going to want to quit. I believe in you."  I remember him saying those words to me, and I had thought, "well Thank God one of us believes in me. "

Then one day after months of treatment, when many things had improved, except I still liked to smoke my cigarettes even if I was hiding it from strangers I would pass on the street....

One day I didn't want to smoke anymore. I almost forced myself to light up, but when I did, I couldn't inhale. I didn't enjoy smoking anymore. WTF? How the fuck did that happen?

I went and I told Dennis, OMFG, I don't want to smoke anymore! 

A month later, I was home visiting my girlfriends for the holidays, and like old times we sat and drank and smoked cigarettes till the sun came up, like we were 25 again.  When I saw Dennis, I told him, I've been smoking again, after I quit for a month! And its worse than before. Its like I never quit for a moment. I like smoking more than I ever have before, and I don't think I'm capable of quitting. I think that was just a fluke that I quit. I'm going to be one of those people who just smoke until they die.

He responded, "Oh this is perfectly fine. This happens all the time. You're going to be ok. You'll quit for good. I believe in you. You keep showing up."  

Are you crazy? Have you lost your mind??? Didn't you hear me? I started smoking again, and its like I never quit. I may as well succumb to dying of lung cancer, I mean who are we kidding? I'm going to smoke myself to a lonely death.  

And he said, "Not to worry. This happens, you'll quit again and permanently."

And I did. I quit. And now I don't fear that I'll start again (I do have to be conscious, but its so foreign that I almost don't believe it myself.)

Insert first lesson here:

Being honest about my shameful secret habits and having a kind non judging witness to my life who was engaged in helping me heal and supported my efforts to change my life, made all the difference.

The good news is that as I started to heal one area of my life, the medicine started seeping into all areas of my life.  I wanted to quit smoking, and I did. But what I uncovered and healed was so much more, priceless really. I saw with open eyes, why I smoked, why I liked it, how it had served me for years.... and when I came to be "so healthy" that I didn't need this crutch in my life, it just fell away. It still pops up here and there, but it doesn't run my life, smoking is no longer an integral part of my self sabotage plan.

Cheese and wine , well they're another story, but not so much smoking anymore. Smile......

So how did I manage to get a perfect yoga body in just three months?

Welp. I didn't. I mean, with all the eating cheese and drinking wine how was I going to to expect yoga was going to "fix" me???!

For the last six or more months I've been showing up every week, 3 times a week for yoga practice. I had to set up my schedule to make myself accountable to show up every week, 3 times a week. This, I knew was a crucial piece. I can make a lot of excuses for not getting out of bed in the morning. I'll be honest.

Guess what? I don't like showing up every week, 3 times a week, but I do. I keep showing up. I keep practicing. At first yoga would make me cry, I didn't understand why. I mean, my wrists cry with pain all day everyday, but this was different. I cried during yoga. 

Then, on the occasion that I could actually pull myself together for a head stand (up against the wall completely supported!!) I would be faced with rolls of blubber not used to experiencing gravity in the opposite direction, and I was just as shocked because, fat rolls look ten times larger when seeing them upside down and close to your face.

Maybe that just my boob.

I hoped.

I kept showing up. Once, I left class because I was crying so much, and the next time I saw my yoga instructor she spoke straight to my heart, she said, there's no reason to leave class when you're in that state. You stay and you cry and there's no shame it that. This is a safe place to be when you're feeling what you're feeling. That's yoga, to be just where you are at, and meet yourself with no judgement.

Mind blowing. Really.

Just showing up every week. Not with bells on, just showing up and going through the motions. If I didn't witness how my yoga instructor could bend and strongly compel her body to do things and stretch in ways that were inconceivable to me, I wouldn't have known it was possible for me.

And within 3 months, I found myself internally joking, how I'd managed to get a "perfect yoga body" in just 3 MONTHS!!?? The reality is and was, I had new muscles that I'd never felt before. And I could actually touch my toes again, I had been a ballerina for twelve years, and I couldn't understand how far my toes had grown away from my fingertips. But such is life.

My life had changed. My body had changed. Life would never be the same again. Once you know the things you know you can't unlearn them.

Here's the thing: if you want things to change in your life, you have to show up differently, even if *you don't feel like it*. You make a different choice and then you show up.  Its that easy and it's that difficult. Work with someone who can hold the vision for you, even when you can't see it for yourself, until you can.

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Art that Heals, Photography that changes lives

Lynne  Bernay-Roman : Human Experience Artist

Art: Lynne Bernay-Roman  

Art that heals, photography that changes lives

Lynne Bernay-Roman: Artist, Photographer, Psychotherapist, and Divine Being

Meet Lynne, a beautiful human expression of the healing we bring to the world when we allow our gifts to become our work in the world, and we follow our heart's calling to create new vessels of transformation for ourselves and for the people we touch.

"My stories are in my art. When I begin I don't begin with much of an idea. I just start. The color speaks loudest to me and I let it take the lead until some sense of design begins to form. Then the relationship between the elements begins to form, and that is when the story takes over. What surprises me is how people translate what they see and feel via my art.  

My photography is about focus and light. It allows me to stare and ogle and zoom in and out of life's wonders, artistically involved and engaged in life's stories.

My paintings are about color and relationships. The relationship of me to all the elements of art and how we tell the story. Relating inspires me; relating with my family, the people around me, nature, animals, with myself, my work and my art. 

I love to travel, in the world, in my inner scapes and through my art.

As in my life, so in my art, things appear a wee bit strange, vibrant, magical and definitely divine, with lots of rough prickly edges to add rich texture."

- Lynne Bernay-Roman : Artist, Photographer, and Psychotherapist

I met Lynne in a spiritual group where we were exploring our beliefs around wealth consciousness and life purpose. As I got to know more about Lynne's work in the world I felt she is a beautiful living example of how our many natural born talents, gifts, inclinations, and creative desires can come together in a beautifully orchestrated way that brings not only beauty but also healing to the world in our own uniquely individual way that only You can.

"Plight of the Bee" Lynne Bernay-Roman  : click on the image to enlarge

You = a unique expression of humanity 

Your life = a unique expression of the human experience

Your purpose = to allow your gifts to come into the world in such a unique way that only you can express, only you can design, in the way that only you can

In 2000, Lynne created a program for at risk kids called "Finding Focus through Photography". A program of self discovery, beyond the boundaries of traditional talk therapy, Lynne wanted to touch the hearts of at risk children through photography and exploration of self. 

"We use art as a metaphor for life. There is the background, we look at the patterns, we see the foreground, the background, and the total picture. My only encouragement is 'To find what lights you up.' They have permission to fail, the goal is to investigate.  And through the process we're able to reframe criticism and critique.

When we started the program the kids were at risk of dropping out, and they put my class as the last class on Friday, but it didn't take long before I had great attendance.  

In the beginning the kids couldn't find anything to be excited about. At the end of the program, everything was a [photograph]. Everything had something they could get excited about, every moment, every element. A crack in the sidewalk, a basketball.

At first its just photography, but it takes just a little bit of nudging to get them to go into the the depths and put words to their different perspectives.  They get to talk about their feelings, they bond over their experiences, and see things in different ways because of the difference in perspectives through the camera lens."

Check out some of the students art work here : http://www.visualvoicesunlimited.com/  Where a blade of grass inpsires "Surviving the Cracks" and a football becomes "The balls are waiting for a challenge, like me". A photograph of a school hallway becomes a way to express a difficult emotion "A Lonely Walk.... into the unknown"  and a homework assignment becomes an outlet to communicate "I feel trapped in my life sometimes".

You can learn more about Lynne's "Finding Focus through Photography" program including purchase the Teachers Manual here: http://www.visualvoicesunlimited.com/manual.html

THE TEACHER’S MANUAL presents all the rich details needed to conduct a dynamic and creative class. It’s all structured for you: outlines, homework, topics for discussion, in-class exercises. The companion CD contains the manual in pdf format supplemented with many added photo examples. It also contains an in-depth, step-by-step guide and slide presentation for each class. Both manual and CD overflow with tools to inspire and stimulate creativity in a totally non-intimidating way. No previous art or photography experience is necessary for either the students or the teacher.

Lynne Bernay-Roman : Human Experience Artist

Lynne Bernay-Roman : Human Experience Artist

Lynne is a multifaceted, multitalented, beautiful expression of unique creation energy : Painting to psychotherapy; photography to storytelling; disconnect to self discovery; the full human experience through full self expression.

Repeat after me:


See more of Lynne's artwork here : https://www.flickr.com/photos/l-bernay-roman/

and here: www.gallery.jupiterphoto.com 

read more about Lynne : http://www.gallery.jupiterphoto.com/about.html

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Risking Everything- Radio Interview

Popular Health Internet Radio with LuciaGabriela on BlogTalkRadio with Liberating Inner Beauty Revolution on BlogTalkRadio

Inspiring you to take epic chances!

Risking EVERYTHING doesn't have to be as scary as it sounds, in fact, ITS TRULY LIBERATING!!!!! check out this short and to the point interview- on my upcoming book chapter : "Risking Everything - In Pursuit of the Divine".

If you've been struggling with depression, anxiety, or utter dissatisfaction with life, NOW is the time to put your ass on the line and make some changes. xxxooxxxx Please share this link with someone who may need to hear this message.

Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway

Life is what you make it. You only have one life to live. I'm not fearless, I feel the fear and do it anyway. If something scares me, it most likely means I have to give it a try. I commit, I feel the fear, and I do it anyway. Life certainly is more fun these days. Wake up and come alive in your life! Now is the time. IN-JOY. (warning: I scream, squeal, and curse a little or a lot at the end of the video. Partially because of the adrenaline partially because of the JOY.)

she's turning her life into something sacred

She's turning her life into something sacred: Each breath, a new birth. Each moment, a new chance. She bows her head, gathers her dreams from a pure, deep stream and stretches her arms towards the sky. - Monique Duval

photograph : Chloë Rain Cusco, Peru 2013

photograph : Chloë Rain Cusco, Peru 2013